Letter: Columnist should have found better way to deal with unruly child
To the editor,
Recently there was an article in your publication titled, "Too many kids lack discipline." But what is the right kind of discipline? Physical discipline is never the answer. Children have rights to not be abused in any form, even emotionally.
Researchers at Tulane University have completed a study on the effects of spanking. The results have shown that children who have been spanked are more likely to be defiant, aggressive, become frustrated easily, have temper tantrums and lash out physically. Instead of teaching our children to talk out their problems, we are teaching them to solve their problems physically. These are not just short-term effects but long term as well. Parents of every age need to learn that children learn from their own parent's actions. Spanking may stop your child from acting out for a short time, but do they really understand what they did was wrong? Spanking can make your child afraid of you. Who wants their children, or even grandchildren, to be afraid of them?
The American Academy of Pediatrics never approves of spanking in any situation. Instead, they encourage time outs. This gives the child time to calm down and really think about what they did to deserve the time out. If time outs aren't working, taking away television or time with friends is a great motivator to stop the negative behavior. An answer to a child acting out should never be, "...whip your butt. You'd have problems sitting down for a few days." I believe that children need discipline however; we need to establish the appropriate measures of how we do so.